Ever since Sophie hit the one year mark, and started being more toddler than baby, Aaron and I have been having "the talk." The "are we good with two" talk. As we put away baby toys, and baby gear that she has outgrown (or set it aside for my brother's baby due this summer), we are experiencing all sorts of feelings and thoughts. I think, if we're just going with feelings, we would like to have another kid. I mean, our family, as it is, would feel fine and complete to me, but there's always room in my heart for more.
Back in November, we were pretty set on trying for another in a couple years. As of right now (and the whining, obnoxious child-filled weekend we just had), two seems to fit us just fine. Babies are a lot of money and time, and we're about at our limit on the availability of both of those things. But, then I see a friend with her nine-week-old, or I finally put away some of Sophie's newborn clothes (and completely tear up over several different tiny oufits), and I'm not so sure.
So I think we're officially on the no-plan plan. If we do ever have another kid, it won't be until Gabbie is in grade school (there's no way in hell we can afford three in daycare), which is a little later than we'd like to have kids. But, oh, another tiny baby would be so awesome.
How does anyone ever make this decision?
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I've been wondering lately how those people who consciously make that decision, make it. As for Joe and me, we're about 90% sure we're done...but not because we don't want another baby, necessarily. It's more for practical and monetary reasons. I'm at peace with that and my family feels complete, but every once in a while, I think about having a little baby again and get that...procreational twinge. (Wow. That's a good phrase. TM!)
I think the no-plan plan is the one that lots of people are on. If we do, we do. If we don't, that's fine too.
But as cute as your girls are, and as cute as my boys are? It feels almost like a sin not to just keep going, you know? ;)
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